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After nice lengthy afternoon chat w/ HelloKittyPeanut, I got a nice surprise when I found my Italian friend Irene on YM after a lengthy online absence. She wanted me to guess where she was, w/c meant she forgot telling me in our last chat that she moved to ChongQing, China to be with her Chinese boyfriend to pursue a job and a whirlwind romance.
Funny how romance clashes with reality.
She tells me she's now single again, having split up w/ her Man (or "Chinese Boy," as she put it) after realizing she couldn't live up to the guy's mom's expectations of becoming a "proper" Chinese wife, or w/ the constant meddling of the latter. Or the concept of eating "mah kut" (w/c they prefer to eat spicy) and just spitting the bones out on the dinner table. I guess she was expecting some culture clashing (whaddya expect when spaghetti meets noodles), but I told her that those things she experienced are very Asian customs, not just Chinese, so they'll be very hard to get away from if she wants to settle w/ an Asian guy-- in Asia, at least (can't speak for those who grew up on the Westernized countries).
Then she said the words no child would admit to saying: "I should have listened to my parents."
Needless to say the guy wasn't happy she broke it off, but at least (she says) they'll still friends, and she's now residing in-campus as part of the faculty. While I'm sure this experience has revised her opinion on Asian men (if not turned off completely by it), at least she had the meatballs to take the leap and experience it firsthand, instead of just hanging out in her flat in Milan, chatting w/ the guy and wondering, "What if...?"
Funny how romance clashes with reality.
She tells me she's now single again, having split up w/ her Man (or "Chinese Boy," as she put it) after realizing she couldn't live up to the guy's mom's expectations of becoming a "proper" Chinese wife, or w/ the constant meddling of the latter. Or the concept of eating "mah kut" (w/c they prefer to eat spicy) and just spitting the bones out on the dinner table. I guess she was expecting some culture clashing (whaddya expect when spaghetti meets noodles), but I told her that those things she experienced are very Asian customs, not just Chinese, so they'll be very hard to get away from if she wants to settle w/ an Asian guy-- in Asia, at least (can't speak for those who grew up on the Westernized countries).Then she said the words no child would admit to saying: "I should have listened to my parents."
Needless to say the guy wasn't happy she broke it off, but at least (she says) they'll still friends, and she's now residing in-campus as part of the faculty. While I'm sure this experience has revised her opinion on Asian men (if not turned off completely by it), at least she had the meatballs to take the leap and experience it firsthand, instead of just hanging out in her flat in Milan, chatting w/ the guy and wondering, "What if...?"
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